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When Someone You Love Is Suicidal

When someone you love is thinking about suicide, you may feel scared. You may not know what to say or what to do. You may worry that you will say the wrong thing.

Those feelings are normal.

The most important thing is to stay present, listen, and take their words seriously.

It Is Okay to Ask

You can ask someone if they are thinking about suicide.

Be calm and clear. Listen to their answer. You do not need to have the perfect words.

Sometimes, simply saying, “I’m here. I care about you. We can get through this together,” can help someone feel less alone.

Listen Without Trying to Fix Everything

You do not have to solve every problem.

Listen. Let them talk. Give them time.

Try not to argue with their feelings or tell them why they should feel differently. Instead, remind them that you care and that help is available.

Take Warning Signs Seriously

Pay attention if someone talks about dying, feeling hopeless, being a burden, or having no reason to live.

Other signs may include pulling away from others, giving things away, sudden mood changes, or saying goodbye.

If something feels wrong, reach out.

Help Them Connect With Support

You do not have to handle a crisis by yourself.

Help the person connect with someone who can support them. This may be a trusted family member, counselor, doctor, crisis service, or mental health professional.

If there is immediate danger, seek emergency help.

Your Feelings Matter Too

Supporting someone through a suicide crisis can be hard.

You may feel afraid, tired, confused, angry, or helpless. You need support too.

Talk to someone you trust. Take care of your own needs. Ask for help when you need it.

You do not have to know exactly what to say.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stay, listen, care, and help someone reach the support they need.